7 Ways to Build Trust in a Relationship

Do you know these 7 concrete ways to build trust in a relationship?  Often, what really makes a relationship work are not the things we think of first.  For instance, do you think you always need to spice things up?  Wrong!  Predictability is the key and is more important than having variety in a relationship.  The following seven methods are guaranteed to grow your connection by improving the level of trust in a relationship.

First, as I mentioned in the opening paragraph, you need to be predictable.  This goes against the common notion that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance alive.  Sure, going to a new restaurant or giving a surprise gift can be nice, but most of all, we need things to be consistent and steady in order to make our relationships work.  Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.

Next, you need to make sure that your words always match the message.  If you say you are happy but you are frowning, your partner does not hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your partner needs to be able to trust what you are saying.  When the words match the message, you build trust in a relationship.

Third, you need to have a fundamental belief in your partner’s competency.  If you don’t you won’t have the trust in a relationship that you need.  When lovingly communicated, the truth is never destructive.  When you do not believe that your partner is competent at some things (or indeed, anything), you violate the trust in a relationship.

Don’t keep secrets.  Secrets destroy the trust in a relationship.  Be honest and open.  Assume everything you know will eventually come out.  Secrets require enormous energy on your part.  That is energy that could be going into building the relationship.

Fifth, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what your needs are.  Don’ t make him or her guess what you need.  Let them know.  It is okay to be self-centered as long as you are not selfish.  Indeed, if you are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and smother your partner.

Sixth, learn to say no.  When your partner voices his or her needs, that is a good thing.  But you don’t need to say yes to everything.  A partner cannot respect you if you never say no.  Refusing to be subjugated to the other person’s will actually builds trust in a relationship.

Finally, always pursue growth.  When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt.  Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain.  But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for future growth.  Don’t be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or questions.  These become the fertilizer for growth and change.  Embrace what is difficult.

When you decide to work on trust in a relationship, you are bound to encounter a little pain.  But, as you work through this pain, you will not only become stronger as an individual, you will also strengthen your coupledom.

Action Steps To Fix My Relationship

When a couple falls in love, it can be a wonderful and beautiful thing.  However, once the couple starts down  that relationship road, there are steps that need to be taken to keep that flourishing relationship.

However, if the relationship is not taken care of or maintained, it may fall into disrepair.  If the relationship reaches this point, you may have to take steps to repair that relationship.

The question of concern may arise by either one of the individuals in the relationship.  That question may be how to fix my relationship?  Some of the practical steps that one can take in response to how to fix my relationship may include counseling and going back to basics.

Counseling

One of the key action steps that an individual or couple can take in order to address the question of how to fix my relationship is by seeking out a counselor.  Generally, a counselor is that individual who has the educational background that qualifies them as a certified counselor.  In addition, if the individual wishes to have religious counseling made available for them they can utilize a priest or a pastor to help with building or repairing the relationship.

In addition, when looking for a counselor to help with the question of how to fix my relationship, it is important to find an individual who is effective.  This effectiveness can be ascertained by getting recommendations from individuals or couples who have benefited from the counseling experience.

The counseling experience in itself is an opportunity for the individual or couple to meet with a counselor with the purpose of sharing what the individual or couple is feeling and experiencing.  Often a good counselor will listen to both sides of the story and provide that third-party perspective that really does not take sides one way or the other.

In addition, a counselor will help to mediate any difficulties that the relationship is experiencing.  For example if either one of the individuals within the relationship have a complaint about the other individual who is not listening, it may be opportunity to do some role-playing or help the other person to hear what is being identified as a major concern.

Going Back To Basics

Additionally, there are other important steps that an individual can take in order to answer the question of how to fix my relationship.  One of those action steps that can be taken is by returning to the beginnings of the partnership.  Specifically, some of those early beginnings can be identified by looking at what actually attracted one individual to the other or what did the other individual do that was so meaningful and allowed the relationship to blossom.

For example, for the woman, maybe it was the man’s attention to being a gentleman or courteous.  An example of this was the way that he opened the door or held her hand or a romantic stroll in the park.  For the man perhaps it was the way that the woman listened attentively to what he was saying or making that special meal once a month, etc.

Whatever the situation....start with the basics.   Remember the reasons of why you fell in love in the first place.  Be attentive,  and simply try listening to your partner to start actions to fix your relationship.

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