How To Write A Heart Broken Poem to Help You Heal

If you’ve ever been through a sad break-up with someone you’ve love, you may have written a heartbroken poem.  You may have even written such a poem for things like the loss of a pet or a family member, sadness at moving away from your friends, or any number of sad life events.  But it seems nothing inspires such sad poetry as a break-up or divorce.  Just as few things inspire love poetry quite like being in a happy, loving relationship.

Poetry is an excellent medium for self-expression. Unless you’re writing poetry with the hope of having it published one day, you can write poetry however you like.  It doesn’t have to be good poetry.  You don’t have to understand any of the poetic terms or conventions like rhyme, meter or free verse.  You don’t even have to have ever read a really good poem in your life to write a heartbroken poem that can help you feel better and maybe help you heal from the pain of a break-up.

An important early step in getting over a break-up or any sad situation is simply facing the pain.  While it might feel better to avoid dealing with the reality of the situation, you can’t really move past it without facing it and feeling the pain, at least for a while.  So facing up to whatever painful situation is happening is necessary.  A heartbroken poem can help you deal with those painful feelings when you’ve split with someone you love.

Don’t worry about whether it’s good or not.  No one else ever has to read your heartbroken poem.  It’s for you and you alone.  Just write down your feelings, as hard as that may be.  You can write in plain language.  Don’t try to imitate the poets of the 17th and 18th century.  Write like you talk, and break the lines where it feels natural to you.  In fact, you can start by writing one huge paragraph filled with all your feelings and everything you want to express, just to get it out.  Then you can go back and arrange your thoughts and feelings into a poem.

Once you’ve written a heartbroken poem, you might want to write more about different parts of the pain.  That’s good.  Get down everything you can, and that will help you to face the pain. Writing the poetry will probably be a very emotional time for you.  Don’t try to stop it.  Just let the pain out and you’ll be better able to move on.

If you decide you want to share your heartbroken poem, you can show family or friends.  Or if you want to share it but not with anyone you know, you can put it online.  There are websites designed just for such things.  You can upload your poetry for free and let other people know if you want to receive criticism or not.  You might opt to not receive comments on your heartbroken poem and just enjoy the fact that you’ve shared your experience.

I Lost Love – Every Relationship Has a Time Line

When I think about how I lost love, I think about Alfred Lord Tennyson’s quote, “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”  When you lose a love,  you feel as if the whole world has collapsed around you.  I’m speaking from my own personal experience. If you too have lost the love of your life, hopefully this article will help you in some way.

I think it is important to remember that every relationship has a natural lifespan.  In Junior High, that’s about four days.  As we get older, the lifespan increases.  But, there are certain relationships that are right for a period of time and then go awry.  Most of us will only have one great love in our lives.  The other relationships will terminate.  That’s why when I say I lost love, I understand that this is a natural process.

In my case, we grew apart.   Although we tried to identify the problems through counseling and genuinely talking things through, it seemed as if too much damage was already done.  The hurt seemed to penetrate deeper than we wanted to acknowledge.  It seemed as if TIME had ran its course.

I personally think we waited too long to express what we were feeling.   I was working 2 jobs, trying to be a good mother and a good wife.  We were both involved in church, and were constantly involved in activities that basically took up additional time.  We barely had time for one another.  When there was a little down time, I was exhausted and just wanted to rest.   He on the other hand started to feel neglected which later led to other things.   I felt less attractive and had NO time for pampering or the feeling of being a beautiful woman.   Strangely enough, neither of us ever complained, but somehow felt as if it was our DUTY to stay engaged.   What we didn't realize is that we were growing further apart.   Doing all the right things, but not doing the RIGHT THINGS for US.

You must identify problems quickly.   After the problems are identified, you must work together and get to the Core of the problems.   If too much time passes, you will find yourself drifting form the love of your life.   Most of the time its not intentional.

Although I have dated and been in other relationships, it seems as if I have lost my Soul Mate forever.

I went through a period of mourning the relationship and analyzing what went wrong.  I really was hurt when we finally decided to end things.  We both felt hurt, but thought it was best.   We parted in peace and I have always wished him well.

Every relationship has to grow or die.  If the relationship causes more hurt between the two of you, sometimes its best to part in a positive way.   I KNOW that there are relationships that can be saved....but this is how I lost love.   Don't lose your love.  I promise you....its not worth it.

Watch T.Dubs video HERE.   He is sincere, honest and truly cares about couples.   I so wish that I had met him during my years of marriage.   Wishing you much LOVE and GROWTH.