I Lost Love – Every Relationship Has a Time Line

When I think about how I lost love, I think about Alfred Lord Tennyson’s quote, “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”  When you lose a love,  you feel as if the whole world has collapsed around you.  I’m speaking from my own personal experience. If you too have lost the love of your life, hopefully this article will help you in some way.

I think it is important to remember that every relationship has a natural lifespan.  In Junior High, that’s about four days.  As we get older, the lifespan increases.  But, there are certain relationships that are right for a period of time and then go awry.  Most of us will only have one great love in our lives.  The other relationships will terminate.  That’s why when I say I lost love, I understand that this is a natural process.

In my case, we grew apart.   Although we tried to identify the problems through counseling and genuinely talking things through, it seemed as if too much damage was already done.  The hurt seemed to penetrate deeper than we wanted to acknowledge.  It seemed as if TIME had ran its course.

I personally think we waited too long to express what we were feeling.   I was working 2 jobs, trying to be a good mother and a good wife.  We were both involved in church, and were constantly involved in activities that basically took up additional time.  We barely had time for one another.  When there was a little down time, I was exhausted and just wanted to rest.   He on the other hand started to feel neglected which later led to other things.   I felt less attractive and had NO time for pampering or the feeling of being a beautiful woman.   Strangely enough, neither of us ever complained, but somehow felt as if it was our DUTY to stay engaged.   What we didn't realize is that we were growing further apart.   Doing all the right things, but not doing the RIGHT THINGS for US.

You must identify problems quickly.   After the problems are identified, you must work together and get to the Core of the problems.   If too much time passes, you will find yourself drifting form the love of your life.   Most of the time its not intentional.

Although I have dated and been in other relationships, it seems as if I have lost my Soul Mate forever.

I went through a period of mourning the relationship and analyzing what went wrong.  I really was hurt when we finally decided to end things.  We both felt hurt, but thought it was best.   We parted in peace and I have always wished him well.

Every relationship has to grow or die.  If the relationship causes more hurt between the two of you, sometimes its best to part in a positive way.   I KNOW that there are relationships that can be saved....but this is how I lost love.   Don't lose your love.  I promise you....its not worth it.

Watch T.Dubs video HERE.   He is sincere, honest and truly cares about couples.   I so wish that I had met him during my years of marriage.   Wishing you much LOVE and GROWTH.